Finding Yourself After a Breakup

Have you ever experienced a break up? The pain, the tears, the anger, the confusion... When you first enter into a relationship, or business, or school you feel like "This is it! It's going to last", until something happens, and another thing happens.. then BOOM! A breakup.  Breakups are not fun. I repeat: Breakups  are not FUN!  When a break up happens, there are always two sides of a story. There are the rights and wrongs that happen, whether its  a  break up from a relationship or a  job, friendship, or a lifestyle. The reason why a breakup even happens is because both parties believe there is no saving the relationship. When you have been stuck in a place for so long, you do everything in your power to keep it right there. But when you get to that point where you just need to move on, then a breakup is necessary.  Now that we've established the ugly of a breakup, let's talk about finding yourself again.

Sometimes  relationships or partnership can have more of an effect on us than we realize. For example, let's say you're on this job for 20 years and now you have to retire, but you're not ready; or maybe you're a single parent and you're trying to adjust to being an individual and being a mother; or maybe you just feel different and you need a change. That's a breakup with the life choices you've made. It's hard to find your voice again when for so long it had been hidden. Gladly we live in a society now where people are understanding the need of balance. They are finding themselves all over again. Breaking up is not easy, its tiring and can be quite difficult. But as the time passes and you find your passion, you understand that the breakup was necessary.  I had to breakup with some friends and some places that I used to enjoy because they didn't fit with the vision that I have for myself. When I found my voice and what I want to do with it, I had to let some people go. I had to think about myself for a change and as hard as that was, it was necessary because it pushed me into my path. So what do you need to breakup with?! I encourage you to breakup with  fear, anxiety, guilt.. anything that doesn't reflect  your vision for yourself. Maybe it's time to go back to school, start that business, join the gym, see a therapist, find a new hobby, something that will benefit you and make you HAPPY.

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~Mahalia❤❤